"You dont always need a plan,
sometimes you just need to breathe,
trust, let go and see what happens
..it might just be worth it in the end"
I still remember the time when I used
to go to school. My life revolved around friends, parents, sister, teachers and
occasional visits to the doctor.
Each one of us wanted to either become a doctor or a teacher. It would be
difficult to find a kid from my generation who have not role played a teacher
or a doctor with absolute enthusiasm ;)
The internet was not so big back then. There was lack of information. Call it a good timing or bad but that
is one of the very reasons none of my same age peers had any realistic role
models to look upto as kids. I am saying realist because we were surrounded by
idealist people. Or rather to put it simply real people who wanted us to
believe in fairy tales.
Our life was supposed to be in
black and white. You are either bad or good. You either win or lose. There was
no space for the greys in life. Surprisingly later on we spend most of our grey
matter over sorting out the grey areas!
But life made it a point to showcase
its beauty. It caused pain and agony. But it’s all worth it in the end.
We all have our circle of
comfort. So did I. Nobody had taught us acceptance.
I had very specific notions about
how people should be and how they should behave. I used to judge people in
black and white. I could never empathise with the greys. Even though I was
living in the crowd, I was not accepting towards them. My rigid thoughts stuck
to their train. But no matter how thick the walls were, people kept on pushing at
my walls. It felt like protecting a fragile bubble. It used to take a lot of my
energies to stand tall and strong. I can’t really remember at what point of
time I gave up. All I remember that it was liberating.
It no more mattered to me how right the person standing in front of me was. I did'nt care whether he was wrong. All I could see was the soul. As long as people did what they wanted to do, I was happy. I stopped binding people with my definitions of Integrity, ethics and values.
I realised that human interaction was the key. Relationships are a shortcut cut to spiritual growth. Knowing people and their life is what adds to the value of your life.
It no more mattered to me how right the person standing in front of me was. I did'nt care whether he was wrong. All I could see was the soul. As long as people did what they wanted to do, I was happy. I stopped binding people with my definitions of Integrity, ethics and values.
I realised that human interaction was the key. Relationships are a shortcut cut to spiritual growth. Knowing people and their life is what adds to the value of your life.
But human interaction is what causes
most friction. We all have an inbuilt measurement scale. We judge everyone who
passes by with the same scale. It’s like measuring water and cotton both in litres!
It’s unfair and it’s not correct. You cannot judge somebody else’s actions with your
parameters. They have their own set for that matter! If you find yourself not
too comfortable with the going ons all you can possibly do is offer your
perspective. But then that’s about it. After all perception sometimes have nothing
to do with the reality. It would be insane to decide based on a perception
which can do irreversible damage to your reality!
When you start accepting
contrasting ideologies and thoughts, you are learning one of the most important
lessons of life- a leap of faith. There can be many roads to the same
destination. Your soul shall choose which road to take. Every road is going to
unravel a new facet of life.
There have been times when I have
been stuck at crossroads. I went to my closest people to know what I should do.
They all had a theory. And they all gave their opinion based on their priorities
in life. Being stuck with such contradicting opinions, I decided to take one random
road. While I was getting ready for the expedition I realised I was not happy. That
decision was made keeping in view a priority to which I don’t attach more
importance to. My priorities were different. I felt torn between the ideals and my soul. I knew that I ideally should have taken the road. But it did not feel
right. With great difficulty I accepted that I had priorities different from
others even though not conventional.
It does not make sense every time.
Or rather it is not supposed to. But rest assured it’s all going to make sense
in the end. It would be almost difficult to point out one decision in my life
which I would rather have not taken. Because no matter how wrong was the decision
I love where I am in life. And I owe it to my highs and lows of life that made
me who I am today. I would never trade my lows for anything else.
Take a Leap. Accept others. Accept Yourself. Take a Leap to a happy life :)
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