Life is simple and easy. We have complicated the matters so much that things have got out of hand. And then we conclude that we were ecologically speaking destined to doom!
I like taking long walks on my own. It gives me a sense of grip on my life. We are so much surrounded by chaos that you need some quite time to clear the shit out of your mind. But I cannot remember when was the last time that I have truly been “in the moment” on any of those walks. I don’t remember enjoying the picturesque around. We are just too busy to do the obvious…
This is the story of everyone’s life. We don’t bother to see how beautiful this world really is. The passing busses, crowded trains, colourful clothes clad eunuchs, honking traffic, beggars, are as beautiful and stunning as the clouds moving across the blue sky, cold air blowing in your face, the rustling of the leaves due to wind, small hurricane like storms forming of the garbage and dust around. Everything is beautiful.
Our days are filled with either thoughts of our past or dreams and hopes for our future. So there is no space left for our present in our lives!
If living in your present is the obvious how did we adapt a different road? The answer lies in our past..our childhood. Remember the times when we fell down while running around playing hide and seek or blind man’s game? We used to cry like there will be no tomorrow! Our parents especially mothers used to distract us by making up some story about your friend or reminding you of the amazing circus you went to last week or making promises to take you out to your favourite ice cream parlour if you stopped crying. And how it worked! We did not stop crying because we were being offered a lucrative bribe. We stopped crying because it eased your pain. Or to rather put it simply, it distracted you from your pain. When in pain think about your glorious future or your beautiful moments of past! We have all been brought up wrongly. We grew up with the easier but in the long run more painful beliefs. This is what we do even today.
We have gone to adapt this mechanism so well that it does not seem flawed at all. Rather it has become our second nature though not natural. This system of ignoring your pain or distracting yourself from the ugly reality till the time you don’t feel any pain or hurt is how this defense mechanism works.
When we are hurting, we spent a few hours or some times a few days grieving. Then our mind readies itself to get out of the grieving process i.e. to move on. We do that by either going over the past memories again and again or by trying to see ourselves in an exponentially happy future.
In this wrestle between the past and the future we forget to live in our present.
The idea here is to remind people to accept and acknowledge your NOW. If you are in pain, allow your soul to feel every rip in your heart. Let it for once tear you apart. Feel the hurt in each and every ounce of your self. Cry, grieve, but keep on breathing. Shallow breathes, Slow breaths, Deep breaths. Breathe in your anguish and breathe out your disappointments. Let it leave you tattered. But at least it will leave…We make the mistake of treating those painful moments as precious memories. These memories dont make us who we are but they are undoubtedly an underlying cause of who we are. They are not us per se. For the wound to heal it is important that you separate the wound from what is hurting it. You cannot expect your stab wound to heal with the knife in it! As gross it may sound, it is the truth of our lives.
So breathe in your present coz it is beautiful. If your today is beautiful so will be your tomorrow. Accept life..
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